Woman Accuses Sister-in-law of Delaying Proper Child Development, Sister-in-law Refuses to Except Any Parenting Advice, So Family Go Behind Her Back to Parent Her Child

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Shelly Pearl
Dec 29, 2024 10:00 PM EST

Parenting is hard enough as it is, but when you add the anxiety of being a first-time parent, the struggles of bedtime, and your own insecurities, it can turn into a bigger mess than you ever planned. This aunt is the real MVP, caring for her nephew like a parent and supporting him as best she can. However, what happens when the aunt and the mom don't see eye to eye? You'd think grandma and the child's father (her brother) would have her back since they agree, but what's a woman to do if she's the only one with the courage to stand up for what's right? Maybe Reddit has the answers.

Most important are the children, or rather in this Reddit thread, the child. There are certain lines that the users won't cross and that is the interests of children. Whether it's blended family drama or between sisters, the children are innocent in the parent's mess, but no matter how hard you try they are the most affected. Is there any way to bounce back here? We'll let you decide. 

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    (23F). She works mostly, and even when she's home, she always finds reasons to go out and run errands. So most of the time, Dimi is with David and his mom. Here's where it gets tricky: Nat doesn't want Dimi crawling, standing, or even walking
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    r/TwoHotTakes Inner-Principle-4953 My Nephew's Mom won't let him crawl (Parenting Struggles)
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    Parenting is no walk in the park.

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    I'm looking for some advice about a situation involving my 9 month old nephew, Dimi, and his parents. Dimi is hitting all these exciting milestones. He's trying to crawl, gets so happy when we
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    We love it when aunts come to the rescue! We hope this aunt gets the answers she needs.

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    help him walk around, and has even started standing with a little support. His dad, David (24M), is super proud and loves encouraging him, and David's mom (Dimi's grandma) is always
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    There is no moment like watching your children reach their first milestones.

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    helping him develop according to his age. (David, Dimi & Nat live with David's parents). The issue is with Dimi's mom, Nat (23F). She works mostly, and even when she's home, she always finds reasons to go out and run
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    Parents aren't perfect, but can this type of behavior even be excused?

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    errands. So most of the time, Dimi is with David and his mom. Here's where it gets tricky: Nat doesn't want Dimi crawling, standing, or even walking because she thinks it's "too much pressure" on his legs. (For
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    Is this parent a control freak or is it just first-time parent fear? 

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    context, Dimi is a healthy baby with no developmental issues.) She also hates when Dimi is on the floor playing with toys and insists he's carried all the time, which just isn't realistic. If Nat sees Dimi making progress, she
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    Sometimes you just need to let kids be kids. 

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    gets mad and blames David or his parents for "pushing him too. hard." But here's the thing: when she is home, she doesn't really engage with Dimi much. She'll carry him all the time, but when she needs a break, she just gives Dimi to David or David's mom or
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    Parenting should come with a manual. This family may need one asap. 

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    if they are busy she just puts Dimi the high chair and leaves him there. Another issue is feeding. Nat only wants Dimi to eat food she prepares which is great, but she's barely home and always has excuses not to cook for him. So
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    David and his mom have to feed Dimi behind her back because, obviously, he needs more than just milk at this point to learn. how to eat solids. The part that really worries me is that Nat still breastfeeds (which is great in itself), but she also smokes w d
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    and drinks. I think David knows, but he's totally wrapped around her finger and gets super defensive if anyone criticizes Nat. His parents won't step in either because they don't want to risk being cut off from seeing Dimi. We're all just trying to do what's
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    best for Dimi, but it's hard when Nat's decisions seem to hold him back or put him at risk. Any advice on how to handle this without causing a huge blow-up? Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
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    fair-strawberry... Is this in the US? If so, he should be regularly going to well baby checks at the pediatrician and they should. be giving out information at each appointment about milestones.
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    LowBalance4404 There is so much to unpack in what you said, that I don't even know where to start, aside from having David speak privately to the pediatrician and also going to therapy with Nat to figure out what exactly is going on with her.
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    nazuswahs Boy what a mess. I will tell you from personal experience that babies MUST crawl. It is an important developmental step. My kid walked at 9 months and rarely crawled. She was the most uncoordinated kid for years. Crawling helps pattern in the brain. Check with the pediatrician for guidance.
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    Kokopelle1gh Sounds like Nat is both too controlling and a lazy parent. Glad nephew otherwise has good support to help him reach his milestones.
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    MamaWelder Is the kid getting regular medical check ups? This issue should be coming up regularly in appointments by their Dr.
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    Aromatic-Arugu... Uh she def needs help... This is above reddits pay grade. She needs professional help or she will hurt her son in the long run, developmentally
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    AlphaBarbed Crawling is CRITICAL for neurological development. In fact, if a baby tries to go straight to walking, it's imperative that you show them how to crawl first and get to walking later.
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    IncredulousPulp This is plain wrong and ignorant. Babies should be encouraged to move and improve all the time. And crawling is particularly important - it sets. up neural pathways which assist in reading later in life.
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